-Fur Massage Is Sensuous-
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Fur Massage brings out the purest pleasure and instills deep relaxation in your partner. While traditional massage requires strong tissue rubs and technical expertise, Fur Massage stirs the imagination and highlights the erotic nature of touch. Massage with fur won’t tire you out and doesn’t require strength and stamina but is more a celebration of the senses and body. Release the tension and stress while enjoying your partner’s response to your touch. With a Fur Glove, you will soon learn to stimulate the most sensitive and responsive parts of their body.
Fur Massage is sensuous and can easily become erotically supercharged and sexual with the right approach. Enjoying your partner lost in sensual bliss is what makes Fur Massage so special. Touching and stimulating the skin is one of the simplest yet most satisfying experiences in the world. The desire to touch and receive affection is the foundation of all relationships and is the source of great pleasure for both men and women. Anything that can done with your hands feels even more incredible when using a Fur Glove. The sensation of fur is unmatched for stimulating the skin and adding an element of seduction.
-Connect With Your Partner
The experience of being nude and receiving pleasure creates a lasting intimacy that enhances your entire relationship. By pampering your partner with a Fur Massage, you express your attraction and affection better than you ever could with words. Everyone appreciates the special attention and sensual massage is often foreplay to incredible sex.
The skin is the largest organ in the body and by stimulation through Fur Massage, the whole body relaxes and becomes open to an intense sexual awakening. Most women prefer not to have their genitals touched until they are aroused. Profound pleasure results when her entire body is waiting for your next stroke with a Fur Glove. Naturally both of you will soon desire to explore which strokes excite each other most passionately.
-Set The Mood
• Create a romantic mood by lighting candles or dimming the lights. Draping sheer fabric over lamps gives a gentle glow to the room.
• Soft music lends a romantic feel and drowns out ambient noise.
• Select a Fur Glove by the type of feel that you’ll both enjoy. Mink is silky smooth when massaged with the fur direction and then textured brushing against the fur grain. Chinchilla is extremely soft and silky, almost indescribably sensuous. The extra long slightly coarse fur of Fox makes for a decadent massage. For a velvety soft feel, try Rex Rabbit. Textured and silky but a bit coarse, Rabbit and Coyote are good choices. Sable is silky and very airy and has the image of the ultimate in luxury.
• Oil and lubricants should not be used with your Fur Glove. They’re not necessary as fur naturally glides smoothly over skin. Save oils for after your Fur Massage.
• Tie on a Fur and Silk Mask for heightened sensory awareness. Not knowing where you will caress next, your partner will be shivering with exquisite anticipation. Blocking out light allows your partner to fully concentrate on the sensation of massage.
• Rest your partner’s head on a Fur Pillow and slip a smaller one under their knees when lying on their back. While lying on the stomach, slide the Fur Pillow under the hips and ankles for comfort and support. They’ll feel absolutely pampered.
-Tools for Fur Massage
Fur Massage Glove
Indulge in the ultimate pleasure with a Fur Massage Glove handmade with the finest Mink, Chinchilla, Sable, Fox, Coyote and Rex Rabbit. Try a Full Fur Glove so both massager and massagee can enjoy the luxurious sensation of fur together. Click here for description of furs.
Mink Eye Mask
Mink Eye Mask blocks out all light and lets your partner’s imagination run wild while she anticipates your next soft caress.
Fur Pillows
Ultra luxurious Chinchilla, Mink, Fox or Rex Rabbit Fur Pillow adds an incredibly smooth touch against bare skin. Unmatched softness.
-Simultaneous Massage Play
For a sensual interactive experience, both partners face each other and slowly stroke Fur Gloves over their bodies. Simultaneous Fur Massage is a wonderful act that brings you spiritually closer to your partner and allows you both to delight in watching each other being pleasured. Both partners can enjoy the massage experience together as they go from light teasing caresses to broad stimulating strokes.
-Sensual Fur Massage
Fur Massage is an unmatched sensory experience. No messy oils or sticky creams are needed as fur glides smoothly over skin. The contact of tactile fur with skin creates an electrical charge that brings a blushing glow to the skin and leaves a delicious tingling feeling. Sensual massage can become erotic when you bring your partner to a high state of arousal and use Fur Massage on different parts of the body to incite or cool down their arousal.
Massage with fur is performed in holistic spas and tantra sex clinics worldwide. Fur Massage has been used as a relaxation therapy and to enhance sexual relationships since ancient times. It is important to use top quality fur. Otherwise, using faux fur or inferior quality fur simply doesn’t feel good and, even worse, can produce a rash or break up during massage.
Sensual Fur Massage can be an indulgence in stimulating your partner’s body or can lead to Erotic Fur Massage, which is more sexual. You two can decide if you want to keep the massage more sensual or include the genital areas for an erotic experience.
Start by trailing the tips of the fur over your partner's back and then pass the Fur Glove lightly over the legs and arms. Continue with these teasing gliding caresses on the shoulders and arms. If you feel tenseness in the shoulders, use the thumb of the Fur Glove to press harder. The warmth from the fur will help loosen the muscles while the fur stimulates the skin. Brush the fur lightly over the face and use the Fur Glove’s fingertips to massage your partner's temples. Don’t forget to stroke the back of hands and soles of feet in soft circles as these areas are highly sensitive and receptive to light touches. Varying strokes of the Fur Glove with a rhythmic pattern and proceeding from long gliding strokes to a deeper harder pressing rub will create an aura of languorous sensuality that builds into erotic anticipation. Let the natural stimulation and silkiness of the fur bring an all-over tingle to your partner’s body.
Once your partner’s body relaxes and settles into the rhythm of long light strokes gliding smoothly over their body, you can gently massage the buttocks with small circles and back and forth strokes. If you’re also naked, pressing your warm body onto their back will make them feel both vulnerable yet secure with the feeling of your body holding them into place. Don’t rush to Erotic Fur Massage and keep the pace slow and sensuous. The electric charge created by the Fur Glove and your movements will start the buildup of sexual energy.
-Sensual Touching Becomes Erotic Fur Massage
Explore the contours of the body with long slow strokes over the back and legs evolving to harder probing strokes on the shoulders and arms. The skin will be so attuned to touch, your light kisses over will send delicious shivers down their spine. Your partner will be in the moment now and ready for more intimate touching. Motion for your partner to turn onto their back and begin massaging the arms and hands. Kneel beside your partner or make it more intimate by sitting astride them so they can feel your hot skin and body movements. Move to the legs and give long slow strokes. Don’t immediately rush to the breasts and neck. Linger for a while appreciating their whole body before moving onto intimate areas. When you sense they have given into the sensation of the fur, pay special attention to the breasts and lightly stroke the nipples and undersides. Both men and women’s breasts are erogenous zones and the feeling of the fur being played in circles will arouse their wilder senses.
Now slide the fur down to legs, brushing the genitals, on your way to the feet. Use the tips of the fur to tickle the tops of the feet and between toes. Move back over the legs and tease your partner by brushing the inner thighs. This will produce an amazing erotic feeling. While focussing on the genital area, you should also make slow sweeping strokes over the body. This will create an overall stimulation and bring a hot blush to the skin as your partner becomes more aroused. Change the rhythm to keep your partner’s body poised with anticipation.
By using your MinkgLove.com Fur Glove to stimulate the breasts and genitals, you are sure to reach the heights of ecstasy.
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Creating Conscious Relationships
By Dr. Linda Miles
Do you ever recall walking into a room and immediately feeling the heavy, lingering negativity after a couple has had a fight?
How can couples learn to manage those powerful emotions that can be generated between them?
To create a conscious relationship it’s important to be aware of the feelings that are created between partners, especially for intimate couples, because their combined emotions are greater than the sum of their individual parts. When couples become aware and learn to be mindful of the energy that is created between them, rather than focus on their individual differences, they are creating conscious relationships.
I’ve observed the tendency of partners to first go through the romantic phase of their relationship, where their combined conscious remains buoyant, lively and fulfilling. At this point they don’t perceive differences in each other. The feeling between these couples shines a bright light across the world and life is viewed from a beautiful kaleidoscope. During this romantic phase, couples project on their partner and the world a canvas filled with images of beauty, goodness and love. And this focus on the combined rainbow of beautiful colors catapults them into a higher consciousness.
Robert Johnson observed that falling in love is meant to be an initiation into a world much greater than the individual - it is an introduction to the ideals of love, truth and beauty that transcend ordinary life.
When couples begin to become aware of the differences and faults in one another, they fail to realize that their partner is a symbol and catalyst for the poetry of life. During the romantic phase they view each other in an idealized manner. But, months or years later, when they are entrenched in power struggles, their partner becomes a cardboard-cut-out on which they project threatening characters from their own past. Such perceptions launch soulless, automatic, rigid, right vs. wrong games that separate partners not only from one another, but from the positive transcendent of their combined consciousness.
Instead of couples wishing for a judge and jury to litigate their individual differences, they can develop tools to manage the potentially creative or destructive powers, which often unconsciously exist between them.
Focus on the process between you, rather than your differences.
Work on accepting the imperfections of both yourself and your partner, while looking for the deeper meaning in repetitive arguments.
Get curious about your learned patterns that you project onto your partner.
Learn to use the combined relationship emotions for creative life-enhancement, instead of destructive maneuvers.
Work to make each other’s lives larger, instead of smaller.
Co-create a picture of what your ideal relationship looks like and visualize that image daily.
Make a commitment, to yourself and to each other, to not participate in destructive interactions that can damage and may ultimately destroy shared consciousness.
In "Embracing The Beloved", Stephen and Ondrea Levine write, how in a spiritual here and now process, they view one another as, "beingness" constantly unfolding. They also refer to combined consciousness as a, "beloved energy."
It can be a difficult process to transform our power struggles into creative energy. As Thomas Merton wrote, "... true love and prayers are learned in the moment when prayer has become impossible and the heart has turned to stone."
Marion Woodman describes the first time she saw her husband free of her own projections after three years of marriage, when she heard him rattling around the kitchen, attempting to poach an egg. At first, she began to think in terms of "shoulds", becoming judgmental of his inadequacy in the kitchen. Then, she let go of all judgment and became able to see him for himself for the very first time, as he stood on spindly legs in his bermuda shorts, holding an imperfect poached egg. She felt such profound love.
Learn to watch with "soft eyes." Watch without any judgment, with compassion and loving kindness.
Copyright 2005 Linda Miles PhD
Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert with a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in newspapers and magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her web site and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and Train Your Brain: For Successful Relationships, CD. http://DrLindaMiles.com
Who is a Compassionate Listener?
By Dr. Linda Miles
It is difficult to become a good listener who both validates the pain of the other, while maintaining the ability to look at themselves. Each person must listen compassionately to themselves and each other.
Within many relationships, rather than engaging in compassionate listening, many couples polarize. One partner is the voice of reason, the head, while the other partner is the voice of emotion, the heart. These patterns often create communication problems, which hardly begins to touch on the angst that can be felt between couples.
While, listening with both our hearts and our heads is valuable, neither is complete by itself, because listening with both makes one complete person. Someone who uses just their head while listening is using their intellect and knowledge, and when used individually, without the hearts part, it can be cold and indifferent. When listening with just the heart compassion turns into confused feelings.
A compassionate listener is someone who listens with both their head and their heart.
Here are traits of a compassionate listener:
They are commited to listening.
They have the intention of understanding, as deeply as possible, the message and concerns of others.
They seek to understand the reality of another through both compassion and understanding.
They refrain from verbal and nonverbal judgments.
They are physically and mentally ready to listen.
They validate their understanding of the other`s reality before expressing their opinion.
They create a balance between their head and their heart.
They remain present and are in the here and now.
They are open to new learning experiences about their own behaviors.
They self-evaluate and can laugh at themselves.
Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D
Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert with a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in newspapers and magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her web site and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and Train Your Brain: For Successful Relationships, CD. http://DrLindaMiles.com
